Within the ADR field, especially in the areas of divorce and family law, there may come a time when parties begin fighting with each other–one party yells, the other yells back: “stop living in the past!” This accusation is a sign that the party is “acting out” of his or her emotions. A mediator or arbitrator is skilled at dealing with, and steering the talks away from these arguments.
Your mediator or arbitrator should take an active role in setting your agenda, giving you useful information, facilitating brainstorming and efficiently tracking resolution progress.
ADR can not only prevent clients from invoking and reliving their dysfunctional past, but help them create a better future.
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