To Stay or Not to Stay (at the Divorce Hotel)

For approximately $3,500, couples can stay at a luxury hotel in The Netherlands and enjoy room service, beautiful scenery, and…a divorce. The idea for a “divorce hotel” was developed by Dutch entrepreneur Jim Halfens as a celebrity divorce destination.

A team of lawyers, divorce mediators, and counselors, as well as the regular hotel staff, help couples who have markedly simple marital arrangements facilitate quick and comfortable divorces. This kind of divorce is for cooperative couples with their own assets who don’t have young children together.

While it seems a long way off, a 2 1/2 day vacation is actually what divorce mediation might seem like to couples who thought litigation was their only option. If only we offered complementary dessert.

Read the full article here.

Transformative Resolve: ADR for your health

Holding a grudge and feeling resentment toward someone who injures you is a natural feeling for most individuals, but it can lead to problems, especially during alternative dispute resolution.  Most people who hold a grudge do so until they receive an apology or compensation for what ails them, but this attitude can be very counterproductive during dispute resolution.

Mediation has tremendous power to bring multiple parties toward an amicable compromise, but it cannot force parties to rid themselves of previous resentments. There are ways, however, to encourage parties involved in a mediation case to let go of their preconceptions and anger. Resolution will occur more quickly and lead to a potentially more agreeable solution if it’s based on mutual understanding. The mediator in any case, whether divorce, business, or personal, will help level the playing field, so the parties involved are compensated and able to resolve not only the dispute, but their feelings about it.

 

Transparency in Mediation

An important factor in alternative dispute resolution is the manner in which each party handles the exchange of relevant information. The litigation process is known for concealing relevant information from opposing parties; however, new legal transparencies and software make it difficult to “hide” information.

Mediation is a very straight-forward and transparent process at its core, which means sharing information among parties helps facilitate the resolution.

Each party, attorney, mediator and neutral brings something important to the mediation process, and understands the value of a smooth dispute resolution.  Sharing relevant information is helpful and will not hinder the ADR process, because it acts to bring each party closer the fundamental details of the case.

 

 

MDRS ADR and Mediation Video

Please enjoy a short video, also featured on YouTube here, in which I talk about the advantages of mediation and alternative dispute resolution.

- Brian Jerome

3rd Annual New England ADR & the Law

This year’s New England ADR & the Law Conference is being held at the Boston MCLE Conference Center, Monday, October 24 at 1pm.  This year’s keynote speaker is Davis Matz, Esq., a partner at The Mediation Group in Brookline and a professor of conflict resolution at the University of Massachusetts at Boston.

MDRS is looking forward to a great ADR conference.

To view the pdf for more information please click  here.

The Plain Language Movement in ADR

A discussion about  legal “jargon” is often met with a quote by Jane M. Siegel, a professor at Thomas M. Cooley Law School: “there is no freedom or justice when the language of law and government is incomprehensible to a country’s citizens.”  Similar opinions have spurred the plain language movement in the law profession, and the need for clear communication is no more apparent then in mediation and arbitration.

It is imperative that mediators and arbitrators focus on the use of plain and comprehensive language during talks to ensure that each party is on a level playing field.  Mediation is more likely to successfully resolving conflicts and disputes if the legal language is translated into concise, readable language.

Plain language can be applied t0 many different contexts.  Your mediator or arbitrator should preview court documents and forms to be sure parties who don’t have a legal background can clearly understand them. In addition to understanding your case legally, he or she should also understand it humanely.

 

 

 

Mediation Tips and Strategies!

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

Below is a link to an article highlighting mediation tips and strategies offered by MDRS, one of the original mediation and alternative dispute resolution firms in Massachusetts. We have over 20 years of experience and are pleased to share a few important things we’ve learned with you.

Click here for PDF.

Let us know if you have any questions by writing to caseadmin@mdrs.com or on our Facebook page.

Thank you,
MDRS

 

MBA CLE Mediation Program

The Massachusetts Bar Association CLE Program, Shuttle Diplomacy: Winning Your Mediation During the Private Sessions, is “designed for both plaintiff and defense lawyers who regularly mediate or for those just getting into the game.” I am pleased to be a part of an experienced faculty team whose goal it is to help the continuing of legal education in the following areas:

Winning in private sessions;
Avoiding common pitfalls;
Using bracketing to your advantage;
Deciding how much information to give each party.

I’m looking forward to our webcast Tuesday, September 27, 2011, from 4pm-6pm at the Massachusetts Bar Association headquarters at 20 West Street, Boston, Massachusetts, 02111.

For additional information, please see the MBA website here, or contact me at bjerome@mdrs.com.

Bette J. Roth Offers Sound Advice to the Legal Community

Bette J. Roth, a mediator and arbitrator who also teaches mediation at Boston University School of Law, is a member of the MDRS Panel of Neutrals. Ms. Roth’s “10 tips for effective – and ethical – negotiation” was recently featured in Massachusetts Lawyers Weekly. As business counsel and mediator, Ms. Roth emphasizes the importance of preserving clients’ integrity throughout the dispute resolution process, considering whether factors in the case will lead to ethically sound decision-making, open-mindedness and optimism.

Ms. Roth also reminds counsel that a particular deal associated with the outcome of a case should reflect the client, not the lawyer. Alternative Dispute Resolution through arbitration, mediation, and other processes, often removes ego from a case because the counsel is involved closely with multiple parties and has the benefit of acting truly objectively, or neutrally.

ADR is a fantastic process that facilitates the kind of negotiation Ms. Roth encourages; the kind that leads to interest- and integrity-based “win-win” solutions.

 

“Talking About the Law” with MDRS Founder Brian Jerome

It was a pleasure speaking with Bob Flynn yesterday on his excellent radio show, “Talking About the Law.”

If you didn’t catch it or want to pass it on, please click here for the audio.

Thanks again to Bob Flynn, and the crew at WCRN 830 AM!

-Brian Jerome